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Up by 6am

Up at 6 am, gone to Napier by 7 am, worked at SEW our factory, then dinner with my sister and the drive home to Tokomaru by 10 pm. Joys of being self-employed, totally my choice. I was told today that “I’m lucky” I hate that. It’s not luck, a Lotto win is luck. It’s high risk, hard work, time away from my kids, self-belief and gritty determination.

Came in the door, chucked in a load of washing, patted the dogs, checked my sleeping kids, looked in the fridge (habit I do at everyone’s house, looking for inspiration) and… nooooo… washing machine leak. Some things can wait till the morning, house work makes you ugly. I’ll pretend I never saw it, surprise for Kiwi in the morning. I’ll act all surprised, he’ll be up first and see it first and feel he must sort it.

Wife of the year, not tonight, I’m tired, bed for me.

Night!

 

Suz x

 

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Watch What You Say to People

Did anyone see that bullying doco?

I said to my boys and their mate on the way to school “watch what you say to people especially girls”. Things you say may be a passing comment and you forget straight away, but that comment can say in the persons head for ever and really affect them. Then Fletch on the radio cemented what I had said, he said someone at school called him a mono brow, so he got his dads razor and shaved between his eyes, the full width of the razor!!! His mum nearly died when she saw what he had done and gave him tweezers for future use!

Words can hurt…

Too fat
Too skinny
Ugly
Weird
Odd
Bung eye
Slow

Teach kids to have empathy to choose their words carefully. Teach them empathy and that there is a ripple effect for everything. Teach them to stick up for the little guy. Teach them bully’s suck, if you remind them enough hopefully it sinks in. I pull mine up regularly for comments to their siblings, remind and teach what is and isn’t acceptable.

Be kind as you don’t know what’s going on in someone else’s world.

Have a great day peeps!
Crazy mama x

 

 

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Mr Brother Had a Milk Run

My brother had a milk run, other kids had a paper run, what did you have? I worked in the Pirimai dairy from 12 till 20. I paid for my pony, gear and grazing myself. Taught people to save for what they want.

Parents… don’t give kids instant gratification by handing over things, for example, a phone they haven’t had to work for. Mine saved and bought their own when they started high school. Make them learn patience, value for money, shopping around and the difference between a need and want. Them paying will make them value it more, look after it better and appreciate how much hard work goes into having the dollars for a purchase. Don’t let them pay things off, hire purchase, that doesn’t help wanting instant gratification, teach kids to save. We teach ours spend half, save half. Teach them to bargain and to get a discount with cash. Teach them a second hand one is fine, until you save enough to get the fancy iPhone you want. Don’t spoil your kids with stuff, teach them stuff isn’t who they are eg the latest label clothes or iPhone, it’s what they use. Spoil them with 😍 I love you and your time.

I laughed at this, we saved to buy a new bed a few years ago. Went to buy one with cash, I didn’t want to book one up. The shop assistant said, “wow you have cash! it’s usually only drug dealers and Asians that have cash!”. I said, “well I’m neither of those!!!!”

Suz

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Challenge Yourself

Challenge yourself!

  • Get out of your comfort zone!
  • It makes you feel alive!
  • The stress of a new challenge creates more focus!

Fight or flight, it’s a biological response, we all have self-doubt, that’s normal. Still push and try, find joy in the journey. When you complete the challenge, you feel amazing!!!

  • Trust in yourself!
  • Trust the process in getting there!
  • No regrets!
  • No excuses!

My challenge, my new parenting show I’m writing, I’m speaking end of September. December I’m doing Iron Maori half marathon in Napier. Then after that another goal of some sort, maybe book number two?

What’s your next challenge or goal? Could be anything, big or small:

  • Study?
  • Travel?
  • Saving?
  • Fitness?
  • Relationship improvement?
  • Music lessons?
  • Night class?
  • Local council?
  • Tell me!

I have more to say on challenges, watch my video by clicking here

Suz x

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Teach your kids!

Teach your kids they need to work too, don’t hand over everything for nothing. Let them earn it or at least go halves with you for things.

RESPECT… they need to understand, you as a caregiver needs to go to work, do a hard day graft to pay for their clothes, food, sport and transport. It’s not easy, you juggle bills and go without for them. Make sure they thank you, have a grateful attitude, a I’ll do my best attitude, not just expect. Thanks for dinner, a ride to rugby or something like a uniform you have bought them. Life isn’t about running around after teenagers 24/7, or it’s going be a rude awakening when they get out on their own and they’ll expect society owes them something. Common courtesy and manners are important. Pull them up for a half arse job, a half arse greeting to an adult, get them to re do it. As an employer, there’s nothing worse than an employee not pulling their weight, expecting to be paid for a half arse Harry attitude and poor work ethic.

One of my kids just got a rev up this arvo! Do a job and do it properly, don’t be ungrateful. Help your parents who work hard for you to give you a good life.  Answering back and complaining won’t get you anywhere, just in more trouble, less privileges, no rides to town, no technology, no money and picking up horse shit!

Consequences and ripple effect, own your actions or reactions. Make sure they know their actions affect others. Do their future partner and employers a favour, teach teens now to work well in a team (play team sport all through school and after). Teach kids to look people in the eye and talk clearly, greet people respectfully and have manners (not to grunt). People skills and networking in this day and age is what will get you ahead in life. Especially because so many kids are now on technology they can’t string together a decent conversation.

Teach them life isn’t all about them, it’s about compromise and hard work. Teach them to take on board constructive criticism, learn, absorb it and carry on. Sulking or complaining doesn’t help anyone. I use “I love you but not your behavior”.

Parents you aren’t your kids walking bank, let them wash your windows, clean your car, do a part time job or babysit for cash to see a movie or to buy something they want. Four kids of mine are down at the shops helping Kiwi work, ones here helping me sort the house. They’ll respect themselves more by making their own dollars and helping others.

Give them the gift of work ethic. They will not thank you now but they will later, so will their future employer.

Suz x

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Absorbing some brainy vibes!

I’m in the library, so I don’t find things to do at home, like clean.

Absorbing some brainy vibes…sitting in here. All my tabs are open. Set my goals, smashing the shit out of them. Goal number One is to do 21 km run in Iron Maori Napier December 2nd, 2017.  I ran around Massey, boxed yesterday just keeping fit each day, it helps my mood.

Goal number two is writing my UNPC, real, raw, relatable, earthy, funny parenting show! It’s in Napier, the first one is a fundraiser at the end of September. Tickets are available at our Napier OOSH store.

Procrastinating a bit, people watching, love it.  It’s hard to be quiet in here, I creepily whisper if people talk to me, I wanna yell out stuff! I respect librarians they seem so self-contained. Piano people come and randomly play it intrigues me to watch.

Have a great day.

Crazy mama Suz!

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Social media approval from the family

I’ve sat all my kids and hubby down a few weeks ago to talk. Asked them are they OK with me discussing topics including them openly on my public profile page.

  • Talking
  • Blogging
  • Videos
  • UNPC at times
  • Raw real relatable
  • Interactive
  • Thought provoking
  • Supportive to other parents
  • Business
  • Life
  • Discipline
  • Funny stories
  • Craziness 
  • Parenting our way
  • Them
  • Fun
  • Current daily events
  • Everything and anything

My kids are great, secure in themselves said they don’t mind at all, they like it. The kids at school think it’s cool one said. I’ve always been extremely open and honest with them from day one. It’s kinda normal for them, Mum is Mum.

Me…

  • A bit out there
  • UNPC
  • Tactless
  • Filter free
  • Extrovert

But ALWAYS with pure intentions, that’s how we Johnson’s roll.❤️ They agreed to talk to me if anything I do or say upsets them on here, so far so good. Their self-esteem is 100% intact. You, me and the kids are learning as we go, let’s support and help each other, life’s a crazy ride! Have a few laughs along the way.

I know my very open, not very private style will ruffle a few people’s feathers along this journey, but at least it gets us all talking and communicating. Pushing the limits and out of our comfort zone makes us feel alive.
Suz x

 

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Not My Problem

 

I learnt this from my boxing coach Mr Filipo Sana.

I forgot my wraps Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared’

I can’t run in these boxing boots and I haven’t brought my sneakers Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared, don’t make your problem my problem, I’m not owning that’.

We take on other peoples problems, in work and life unnecessarily:

  • Our kids
  • Our work mates
  • Our friends
  • Our jobs, especially as a supervisor or boss, people like to offload responsibility, its easier than fixing the problem themselves

Its frustrating when we have given the plan or the tools to succeed already. Like at staff training or family rules. So I will use this now not my problem you sort it out at home and work. I guess its human nature, easier to pass the problem on… try to make it some one else’s. If this happens; mirror image that problem right back at them… reflect. It could be the grenade theory, say not my problem.

If the kids aren’t prepared for the cross country at school, haven’t bothered to find their sneakers and gear until the morning, last minute before school its not your problem mum. So let them face the consequences of running in bare feet, let them feel the ripple effect of how being under-prepared affects them and those around them. Poor performance running, prickles and cold feet. Less house points for their team in school sports for poor performance. Hopefully they’ll be more prepared next time. The Johnson kids understand that every decision in life they make has a consequence and a ripple effect. More adults need to take this on board. Be responsible for your own shit!

A good parent an effective manager and supervisor gives the team the tools to do a good job and the respect to trust they will, the training, the inductions, the manuals, the resources and the communication. But a good manager doesn’t do other peoples jobs for them. They also don’t own others slack behaviors or responsibility and job avoidance. Use the mirror and grenade theory, chuck it back, leave them to deal with it not my problem its your job, you sort it, accept the consequences and ripple effects.

NOT MY PROBLEM… DEAL WITH YOUR OWN SHIT!

Suz x

 

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Do something that scares you!

Get out of your comfort zone to GROW! Shit just got real.

I’m outa my comfort zone… BOOM I signed myself up to do a public boxing match for diabetes and obesity, at the stadium here in Palmerston North. When you put it out there publicly you gotta do it!!! announce to the world. Training nearly makes me vomit and I sweat like a gypsy with a mortgage. I’m getting fitter and stronger, there’s a strong compulsive motivation to train, the incentive is I don’t want to get a hiding in public.

May the 6th is D DAY! I need to have more faith in myself and my life that scares me. I thought waking up to my husband each day was enough. But no, if you aren’t getting out of your comfort zone you aren’t growing, you aren’t challenging yourself to be a better version of yourself. For me its not about a punch up, I can go to the pub for that. Its about getting fit, setting a goal, learning technique, co-ordination, focus, discipline, hard-work, focusing on ME… not the business, my kids, my hubby. Setting a goal and smashing the shit out of it, stick at it and make myself not quit.

I’ve lost nine kg already, the weight is falling off because I’ve changed my mindset. I want to be fit, I haven’t made it about being skinny and weight. Its about me and fitness, to be strong mentally, emotionally and physically. Its quite liberating as I am one that has battled with weight my whole life. I am at peace with my curves, boobs, rolls and stretchmarks, now they tell my story… I’ve lived. I guess its a turning 40 thing, you look at yourself differently and think.

Yip I’ll be judged, I’m OK with that! Others opinions of me is their business, so I’ll leave that with them.

I have faith in me, my kids have too. My ten year old son told me I’d demolish the other person. I guess that may be a bit of the Crazy Mumma Suz parenting coming out.

What I’m getting at is get out of your comfort zone, set a goal, big or small. To grow,to challenge yourself, it will lift your self esteem, you will be proud of yourself mastering a new thing. If you don’t try you will never know. I’m not sure who I’m fighting yet, so watch this space. Left right left, jab hook, duck and dodge the punches and wave if you see me running.

Watch my video blog on scaring yourself by clicking here

 

Suz

 

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