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I’m Not Going to Tell you How to Parent

I’m not guna tell you how to parent in my Parenting Show. Take what you need from me talking about every aspect of parenting. I grew up in the 70s, in an era where quality time with dad was a trip to the dump, TAB and filling flagons at the Onekawa.

I discus my 5 kids and others, different ages. Eating a packet of blue tack, kids chatting to you on the loo while you poo or wee. Danger shags, putting the Wiggles video on so you get 15 mins away from Toddler eyes. Feeding, sleeping, socialising, risk taking, creative horse shit picking up discipline, through the years.

Fanny prolapse, incontinence laughs, pygmy boobs, losing it, the looks, relationships, everything. Stories, scenarios, raw relate-able real! I’m a BAD arse mum, not a snob mob mum.

I can do a fundraiser talk for your school or organisation, email me at headoffice@ooshshop.co.nz

 

Suz …

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Mr Brother Had a Milk Run

My brother had a milk run, other kids had a paper run, what did you have? I worked in the Pirimai dairy from 12 till 20. I paid for my pony, gear and grazing myself. Taught people to save for what they want.

Parents… don’t give kids instant gratification by handing over things, for example, a phone they haven’t had to work for. Mine saved and bought their own when they started high school. Make them learn patience, value for money, shopping around and the difference between a need and want. Them paying will make them value it more, look after it better and appreciate how much hard work goes into having the dollars for a purchase. Don’t let them pay things off, hire purchase, that doesn’t help wanting instant gratification, teach kids to save. We teach ours spend half, save half. Teach them to bargain and to get a discount with cash. Teach them a second hand one is fine, until you save enough to get the fancy iPhone you want. Don’t spoil your kids with stuff, teach them stuff isn’t who they are eg the latest label clothes or iPhone, it’s what they use. Spoil them with 😍 I love you and your time.

I laughed at this, we saved to buy a new bed a few years ago. Went to buy one with cash, I didn’t want to book one up. The shop assistant said, “wow you have cash! it’s usually only drug dealers and Asians that have cash!”. I said, “well I’m neither of those!!!!”

Suz

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Get OUT of your COMFORT ZONE

Getting out of your comfort zone at 43 can be hard, lead by example. I do it so my kids can see they, or I, can do anything if you want to. How do you know how well you will do if you don’t try, whatever you do, just try and do it with good attitude and lots of heart.

The end of season rugby game, kids vs parents. Dads usually only play, but this crazy mama, try hard, All Black, thought I’d give it a go too. Making memories and having a laugh while getting some exercise was my rationale. I quite enjoy embarrassing my kids too. I think they were surprised I have got a bit of mongrel in me, snatching the ball or shoving people and getting among the rucks.

Reluctant to play in the rain, freezing cold, funnily enough I actually really really enjoyed it. The thing is on the day of the game I really couldn’t be bothered, hoped they’d cancel, but once you have committed you have to front up. Glad I did, was a great day, with a lovely bunch of parents, kids and supporters. Good to meet new peeps 👍🏻😄

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Suz x

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Teach your kids!

Teach your kids they need to work too, don’t hand over everything for nothing. Let them earn it or at least go halves with you for things.

RESPECT… they need to understand, you as a caregiver needs to go to work, do a hard day graft to pay for their clothes, food, sport and transport. It’s not easy, you juggle bills and go without for them. Make sure they thank you, have a grateful attitude, a I’ll do my best attitude, not just expect. Thanks for dinner, a ride to rugby or something like a uniform you have bought them. Life isn’t about running around after teenagers 24/7, or it’s going be a rude awakening when they get out on their own and they’ll expect society owes them something. Common courtesy and manners are important. Pull them up for a half arse job, a half arse greeting to an adult, get them to re do it. As an employer, there’s nothing worse than an employee not pulling their weight, expecting to be paid for a half arse Harry attitude and poor work ethic.

One of my kids just got a rev up this arvo! Do a job and do it properly, don’t be ungrateful. Help your parents who work hard for you to give you a good life.  Answering back and complaining won’t get you anywhere, just in more trouble, less privileges, no rides to town, no technology, no money and picking up horse shit!

Consequences and ripple effect, own your actions or reactions. Make sure they know their actions affect others. Do their future partner and employers a favour, teach teens now to work well in a team (play team sport all through school and after). Teach kids to look people in the eye and talk clearly, greet people respectfully and have manners (not to grunt). People skills and networking in this day and age is what will get you ahead in life. Especially because so many kids are now on technology they can’t string together a decent conversation.

Teach them life isn’t all about them, it’s about compromise and hard work. Teach them to take on board constructive criticism, learn, absorb it and carry on. Sulking or complaining doesn’t help anyone. I use “I love you but not your behavior”.

Parents you aren’t your kids walking bank, let them wash your windows, clean your car, do a part time job or babysit for cash to see a movie or to buy something they want. Four kids of mine are down at the shops helping Kiwi work, ones here helping me sort the house. They’ll respect themselves more by making their own dollars and helping others.

Give them the gift of work ethic. They will not thank you now but they will later, so will their future employer.

Suz x

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I’m a LEGEND!

I’m a legend…. Boom!!!

Anyone puts anything dirty in that clear clean laundry from now till 8am… they will get a punch in the face!

 

Love Mum x

 

One on one time with the kids

Having one on one when you have 5 kids can be a mission, so I keep it simple. It doesn’t have to be leaving the house or going to town, it doesn’t have to cost a fortune. You have just gotta be present be in the moment, mindful, giving them your undivided attention for half an hour at least. Chat, guide, funny they learn without even realising.

  • Baking – teaching them to trust and follow a process.
  • Prepping tea – food safety.
  • A bike ride to kick a ball around – sport and coordination.
  • Planting in the garden little shop plants – nature and growing things.
  • Lying on the couch snuggled up watching the block – feeling the love !!!
  • Fixing or building something – creativity respect for tools.
  • Just making them feel valued as an individual – making memories.

I know we are all busy working, but now my twins are older in year 10, I wish I slowed down a bit to let them catch up. Not be so task oriented, housework can wait! Now when they chill, all the kids will help ice Pipis banana creations with chocolate icing and chuck on some hundreds and thousands, fancy, quality family time right there, no technology required, Ohhh except an oven and beater.

Boom… mother of the YEAH!
Happy kids ❤️

They wanted to share with their teachers too cute! Paying it forward! (they washed their hands so safe to eat!)

Suz x

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How to dry stuff in the car

How to dry stuff in the car, last minute before school production!!!

Not My Problem

 

I learnt this from my boxing coach Mr Filipo Sana.

I forgot my wraps Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared’

I can’t run in these boxing boots and I haven’t brought my sneakers Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared, don’t make your problem my problem, I’m not owning that’.

We take on other peoples problems, in work and life unnecessarily:

  • Our kids
  • Our work mates
  • Our friends
  • Our jobs, especially as a supervisor or boss, people like to offload responsibility, its easier than fixing the problem themselves

Its frustrating when we have given the plan or the tools to succeed already. Like at staff training or family rules. So I will use this now not my problem you sort it out at home and work. I guess its human nature, easier to pass the problem on… try to make it some one else’s. If this happens; mirror image that problem right back at them… reflect. It could be the grenade theory, say not my problem.

If the kids aren’t prepared for the cross country at school, haven’t bothered to find their sneakers and gear until the morning, last minute before school its not your problem mum. So let them face the consequences of running in bare feet, let them feel the ripple effect of how being under-prepared affects them and those around them. Poor performance running, prickles and cold feet. Less house points for their team in school sports for poor performance. Hopefully they’ll be more prepared next time. The Johnson kids understand that every decision in life they make has a consequence and a ripple effect. More adults need to take this on board. Be responsible for your own shit!

A good parent an effective manager and supervisor gives the team the tools to do a good job and the respect to trust they will, the training, the inductions, the manuals, the resources and the communication. But a good manager doesn’t do other peoples jobs for them. They also don’t own others slack behaviors or responsibility and job avoidance. Use the mirror and grenade theory, chuck it back, leave them to deal with it not my problem its your job, you sort it, accept the consequences and ripple effects.

NOT MY PROBLEM… DEAL WITH YOUR OWN SHIT!

Suz x

 

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