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Teach your kids!

Teach your kids they need to work too, don’t hand over everything for nothing. Let them earn it or at least go halves with you for things.

RESPECT… they need to understand, you as a caregiver needs to go to work, do a hard day graft to pay for their clothes, food, sport and transport. It’s not easy, you juggle bills and go without for them. Make sure they thank you, have a grateful attitude, a I’ll do my best attitude, not just expect. Thanks for dinner, a ride to rugby or something like a uniform you have bought them. Life isn’t about running around after teenagers 24/7, or it’s going be a rude awakening when they get out on their own and they’ll expect society owes them something. Common courtesy and manners are important. Pull them up for a half arse job, a half arse greeting to an adult, get them to re do it. As an employer, there’s nothing worse than an employee not pulling their weight, expecting to be paid for a half arse Harry attitude and poor work ethic.

One of my kids just got a rev up this arvo! Do a job and do it properly, don’t be ungrateful. Help your parents who work hard for you to give you a good life.  Answering back and complaining won’t get you anywhere, just in more trouble, less privileges, no rides to town, no technology, no money and picking up horse shit!

Consequences and ripple effect, own your actions or reactions. Make sure they know their actions affect others. Do their future partner and employers a favour, teach teens now to work well in a team (play team sport all through school and after). Teach kids to look people in the eye and talk clearly, greet people respectfully and have manners (not to grunt). People skills and networking in this day and age is what will get you ahead in life. Especially because so many kids are now on technology they can’t string together a decent conversation.

Teach them life isn’t all about them, it’s about compromise and hard work. Teach them to take on board constructive criticism, learn, absorb it and carry on. Sulking or complaining doesn’t help anyone. I use “I love you but not your behavior”.

Parents you aren’t your kids walking bank, let them wash your windows, clean your car, do a part time job or babysit for cash to see a movie or to buy something they want. Four kids of mine are down at the shops helping Kiwi work, ones here helping me sort the house. They’ll respect themselves more by making their own dollars and helping others.

Give them the gift of work ethic. They will not thank you now but they will later, so will their future employer.

Suz x

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Not My Problem

 

I learnt this from my boxing coach Mr Filipo Sana.

I forgot my wraps Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared’

I can’t run in these boxing boots and I haven’t brought my sneakers Filipo’ ‘not my problem Suz, I taught you to come prepared, don’t make your problem my problem, I’m not owning that’.

We take on other peoples problems, in work and life unnecessarily:

  • Our kids
  • Our work mates
  • Our friends
  • Our jobs, especially as a supervisor or boss, people like to offload responsibility, its easier than fixing the problem themselves

Its frustrating when we have given the plan or the tools to succeed already. Like at staff training or family rules. So I will use this now not my problem you sort it out at home and work. I guess its human nature, easier to pass the problem on… try to make it some one else’s. If this happens; mirror image that problem right back at them… reflect. It could be the grenade theory, say not my problem.

If the kids aren’t prepared for the cross country at school, haven’t bothered to find their sneakers and gear until the morning, last minute before school its not your problem mum. So let them face the consequences of running in bare feet, let them feel the ripple effect of how being under-prepared affects them and those around them. Poor performance running, prickles and cold feet. Less house points for their team in school sports for poor performance. Hopefully they’ll be more prepared next time. The Johnson kids understand that every decision in life they make has a consequence and a ripple effect. More adults need to take this on board. Be responsible for your own shit!

A good parent an effective manager and supervisor gives the team the tools to do a good job and the respect to trust they will, the training, the inductions, the manuals, the resources and the communication. But a good manager doesn’t do other peoples jobs for them. They also don’t own others slack behaviors or responsibility and job avoidance. Use the mirror and grenade theory, chuck it back, leave them to deal with it not my problem its your job, you sort it, accept the consequences and ripple effects.

NOT MY PROBLEM… DEAL WITH YOUR OWN SHIT!

Suz x

 

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Tone

OK blokes, Crazy Mummas gunna help you out! They say don’t try to understand us, just love us… but sometimes it’s just not enough… so…

Its all in the tone, take your ques from the TONE of her voice.

If a woman says ‘do what you want’ or ‘I’m FINE’ angrily or during a heated discussion. Don’t under any circumstances DO WHAT YOU WANT and SHE AIN’T FINE.

  • Stand Still.
  • Don’t move.
  • Try not to even blink, let alone sniff or lick you lips.
  • Breathe quietly and slow, actually don’t breathe.
  • Be still and look sad for your own safety.

Once she looks a bit calmer try to defuse the situation… she can blow again so tread carefully.

  • DON’T SAY calm down! That will cause her to blow… BOOM
  • DON’T SAY chill out! Saying these words in the worlds history of arguments has ever made her chill out NO she’ll blow up way worse BOOOOM

And you getting tourettesy and swearing at her, also not helpful. You’ll have a Hiroshima size blow up on your hands.

Start with… I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to upset you, I can tell I’ve hurt your feelings and that’s the last thing I want to do. I don’t want to fight with you… wait… just wait, she should self calm.

If nice stuff doesn’t work, throw chocolate at her feet and retreat like the American Troops retreated in Vietnam, she and you made need SPACE and time. Some battles you both can’t win, at times you just have to agree to disagree and compromise (such a grown up word that). It still means you are THE MAN, a clever man just making life easier for yourself. Pick your battles; some shit is not worth the fuss. Remember doing little jobs like hanging out washing, helping kids do homework, cooking tea will make her so much more agreeable when you want to do stuff… to her… with her… and with mates!

It’s 50/50

Love Suz xox

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Mothers Day

Hey its Suzie Johnson here…

Mums, this is YOUR DAY! A CELEBRATION OF YOU AND YOUR AWESOMENESS!

Mums are pretty special people. You have no idea what a mother goes through until you become one yourself.

Mums still love you even after they had you and you made them sleep deprived, worry, poor, their boobs saggy, tummy stretch marked and bum hemorrhoidal.

Mums don’t have to be biological, I have five babies, ones adopted; I tell her she didn’t grow under my heart she grew in it. I got to pick her, so she’s my present!!! I love her as I love them all.

Mums need to be told often they are loved and cherished because they aren’t always going to be here. One day there will come a day you wish you told her you loved her more. So text her, phone her, visit her TELL HER OFTEN.

I have a few second mums, not biologically attached, but caring woman that have taken me under their wings and loved unconditionally through the years, so I thank them too. It takes a community of women to raise children, Mums and grandmas, second mums, adoptive mums, surrogate mums. A big posy of caring women with a wealth of knowledge, they have intuition and lead by example.

So all you fab mums out there; eat the cake and buy the shoes. Remember life is short, look at all those ladies on the titanic that waved off the desert trolley because they were watching their weight and didn’t eat the cake. Don’t make that mistake.

Mums try hard, struggle and give everything to make sure our kids feel happy and loved. Eat the cake and drink up, especially all you single mums, you are bloody legends.

 

Love you Mums, YOU ROCK!

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Fear and Excuses

I was 93kg back in December;

My exercise was running a lamp post and walking a lamp post.  I was out of breath and hating every minute, embarrassed and in fear of people judging me. They would honk their horn, and yell when they saw me thundering along, gasping for air and uncoordinated!!! Trying to make excuses in my brain of why I should STOP! In the end, I couldn’t handle the shame and feeling discouraged. Then I thought FUCK IT… FUCK THEM! Who cares what they think! this is actually about ME not THEM. I’m lapping everyone on the couch.  I’m trying, I’m doing it, I have my legs and they feel like jelly, but they are running. Fuck what everyone else thinks.

I signed up for a charity boxing match and after a few months of tears, hard exercise, training and dropping 18kg from clean eating and exercise. I was thinking about what stops us from moving forward in life and reaching our full potential. What holds us back? It’s easier to stay in the now, not grow; it’s familiar and can just be a habit. It’s easier to make excuses, complain and not move. Guess what MOTIVATION IS THE NEW ACCESSORY. We all like easy, it’s our comfortable place, its FEAR, its being SCARED, its fear of failing that stops us, fear of being laughed at and not being good enough. Fear of judgement, fear of what people say, fear of pain, fear of effort. Feel the fear and do it anyway, what do you have to lose?

You can’t grow and be the best version of yourself staying normal or not pushing yourself!

You don’t know how awesome things are or how awesome you can be if you don’t try new things. Difficult challenging things… like… mine is BOXING. For you it could be a university paper, a course etc. When you conquer your fear you discover a new confidence and self-esteem. The best bit is you meet new like-minded people like I have. The red team my ROCKS!

INSPIRE others before you EXPIRE, by leading by example. In other words, no regrets, no what if’s. Don’t let fear stop you, life is for LIVING, gain strength from that.

 

Where my focus goes my energy flows!

 

This is a cut out and stuck on my computer.

So if I concentrate on the negative, people or gossip or situations that’s where all my energy will go, in circles and down the drain. Talk to yourself positively in your head; I concentrate on the positive, which is a new thing. Conquering the fear with a task, project, person and that’s where my energy will flow on the positive. To overcome fear one needs to stop complaining, wingers are annoying.

  • Take the fear by the balls
  • Stare it out
  • Accept the obstacles
  • Make the goal
  • Create a plan
  • Get resourceful
  • Execute the plan (2 planes if you have too, plan A if that fails you got plan B)

Then be super stoked, puffy chested proud of yourself and enjoy the new found confidence once the goal is completed. Plan to conquer the next goal, feel the fear and do it anyway. We all worry too much about what others think of us. As long as YOU like YOU, earn your OWN respect for yourself, by believing, and achieving.

Who cares what others think of us, it is their business, leave it with them. The people that really know you well, love you and you respect are the ones you value their opinion and they only want the best for you. Don’t let other people’s flippant opinions hinder you reaching your full potential.

No more fear and excuses… why be ordinary when you can be extraordinary.

Love Suz x

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But Why?.. Crazy Mumma Suz

Why?… its a question I ask myself daily.

Why Suzie do you do what you do? Mum to five kids, wife to husband Kiwi & hands on owner & clothing designer for The OOSH Experience. A group of stores born from $5 and a dream to empower woman to be comfortable in the body there are in, with honest advice and some great NZ Made clothing. Oops almost forgot to mention I also run a NZ Made clothing factory, property investment company and importing business, as well I’m a motivational public speaker, radio host, business coach and entertainer extraordinaire, (breath Suzie breath)…phew!

Life’s never boring round here, some people call me crazy, where does she get her energy, how does she do what she does… why does she do what she does? When times are tough and I haven’t seen my kids for a while or I’m sitting alone in a motel room, that why? question comes up a lot.

What do I know about myself.  I’m a passionate 40 something Crazy Mumma, my life lessons confirm that I was put on this earth to make a difference. Yeah I make mistakes, but I don’t let them stop me. I know who I am and I know I’m good at what I do. I’m empowering others with my experiences and knowledge in my own Crazy Mumma way. Yeah its corny, but my kids have to grow up in this world, so I need to make it a better place!

So that question again… Why? Because I can, because I’m good at it and hell why not?

 

We’ll talk again soon, Love Suz xox

 

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